Boundaries!!!….Boundaries define where you end and the other person starts. Boundaries can refer to actual space but also psychological space such as jealousy and being over protective being overprotective.Personalspace usually refers to actual space such as the distance between people or personal areas in a home.
Well today am just about to get a little bit personal as we redefine boundaries and personal space.Lets get into it.I have always valued friendship and people I met in my day to day life.Well some of those we interact with daily either fall into the close circle of friends,classmates ,colleagues or maybe brothers and sisters as others would love to describe them.
Our interactions are always based on how close we relate or can cope to each other .To some it’s so easy to let them into your life but to some a second thought has to be made.I bet that comes naturally.
Like there are people I just meet in day one and am like omg we clicked !!Its really amazing 😉 No strain is involved while there are those ooopsy moments where you meet some people And you are just like damn!but you actually end up to being so tight.Not forgetting those relationships we have had to develop over time.
What we do after this is solely dependent on us as individuals whether we want them in our innermost or just in the friend zone.And this is where boundaries come in and everyone should respect that !🥺Sometimes we also exaggerate our positions in people’s lives while sometimes we just don’t attach the value needed into our relationships.
This is very key and it should not be disbarred.I personally have a problem with people who over exaggerate their positions in your life .Well yes we are friends but have you been allowed to cross a certain line In My life ? If the access is not yet granted sweety just keep off 🥺😂sounds rude ?!But no dear if you have not been let in kindly just keep off 😃I don’t expect you to keep spooking into my business as you wish 😂we are not friends and yet you are busy questioning my love life 😂You are even plan who I should be seeing and who I shouldn’t .
Human beings have a natural way of bonding that enables them to know whom you can trust with what and who you ought to “keep off”By understanding this we save ourselves feelings of not being enough and actually put enough value on ourselves. With this you actually get to know how to relate with people in all situations.
Then the is this part where we totally exaggerate our positions in-other people’s lives.We see and think that we are important to them but they don’t view us differently 🥺😫😂to them we are not as important as we think we are 🤗but that’s totally okey.With the correct boundaries we save ourselves the hurt that usually come as a result of this .
Just make sure you know when you are required to actually stay and when you need to leave .
Finally I read somewhere “if I ever loose you as a friend it doesn’t mean I gained you as an enemy I want to see you just not at my table.Remember you can never be every body’s cup of tea!And at the same time you can’t make everybody happy not unless you sell ice Cream🍦😉!
Special regards to Lisa Maina for inspiring this piece 🥰🥰
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