WHAT IF…..

Last Week, I Watched It Ends with Us—And It Made Me Think About Falling in Love at the Wrong Time

Last week, I finally gave in to peer pressure and went to watch It Ends with Us. I had mixed feelings about it, though, because let’s be honest—most movies never quite capture the essence of the books they’re based on. And It Ends with Us is one of those books that really got to me. I was very curious on how the cast would execute the plot. I had read it four years ago, and I cried buckets. Back then, I was moved by Lily Bloom’s journey, but I couldn’t fully relate. Now, years later, I find myself understanding her in a way that I never expected.

Leaving the cinema, I felt some type of way. A wave of anger , disappointment and some sadness .You know that feeling when a story hits you right in the gut, and you can’t shake it off? That was me. I kept thinking about love—specifically, about what it means to fall in love at the wrong time & with the wrong person . It’s something that It Ends with Us explores so deeply, and it’s something I’ve experienced in my own life.

There’s nothing quite as bittersweet as meeting someone who feels like they’re meant to be in your life, but knowing deep down that the timing is all wrong. You connect on a level that feels rare, maybe even one-of-a-kind, but for some reason, life isn’t letting you be together in the way you want. Maybe you’re both dealing with your own struggles, healing from past wounds, or simply on different paths that don’t quite align.

In those moments, you can’t help but think, “If you ever choose to love, I hope you fall in love with me.” It’s a quiet wish, almost a plea to the universe, that if the timing were different, if the stars aligned, you’d be the one they choose. But instead, you find yourselves stuck in this limbo where love feels both possible and impossible at the same time.

What’s even harder is that, in the confusion of it all, we sometimes end up choosing people who don’t love us as much as we deserve. Or being chosen by the wrong people and since we really want to fill the gap , We settle for relationships that aren’t right, that might even be manipulative, because we’re trying to fill the void left by that almost-love. We stay with people who don’t build us up, who don’t see our worth, and before we know it, we’re stuck in situations that drain us instead of empowering us. And our hearts are broken over and over again.

We look around and realize we’ve become someone we never intended to be—the person who tolerates less than they deserve, who’s willing to accept love that’s half-hearted or conditional. And we wouldn’t wish this on anyone else, so why do we let it happen to ourselves?

This is where the real lesson of It Ends with Us comes into play. It’s about realizing that the cycle has to stop with you. “It ends right here with me and with you,” isn’t just a line from the book—it’s a mantra for choosing better for yourself. It’s about recognizing that you deserve a love that values you, not just when it’s convenient, but now, in the present moment.

You want to love someone who sees you, even on your darkest nights, who values your dreams, who’s there not just for the good times but for all the messy, complicated parts of life too. You want a love that builds you up, that makes you feel like you’re growing together, not just passing time.

And more than that, you want to love yourself enough to walk away from anything less. You want to pursue your dreams, to be more than just someone every man gets to sleep with. You want to be cherished, respected, and valued for who you are—because that’s what you deserve.

So, here’s the truth I’m holding onto after watching It Ends with Us: If you ever choose to love, I hope you fall in love with someone who truly sees you, who values you in the here and now, not just when it’s convenient for them. And more importantly, I hope you choose yourself—your dreams, your worth, your happiness.

Because love isn’t just about finding the right person; it’s about becoming the right person for yourself, too. It’s about ending the cycles that don’t serve you and embracing the love that you deserve, right here, right now.

It ends with us. It ends with you. And that’s where your new beginning starts.

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